
Redesigning my online home
I spent the day…redesigning this blog. For the umpteenth time, of course. Maybe this time the process will encourage me to actually write on here. I am beyond the point of making such promises, but can remain hopeful despite historical evidence. Also…it’s time to tackle the “about me” page update, which is always a very harrowing process. It’s three years out of date and although not much has changed, everything has.
It’s a short week this week and next week, due to the Easter weekend and it feels like nobody is actually going to be doing any work, or making any decisions. I woke up today in a gatvol mood, and immediately gave myself permission to take this week and next week “off”. The “off” is in inverted commas, because it’s just a mindshift: I will still be working, but at my own pace, with little agenda other than to “check items off list”. One item was this blog, and it gave me tremendous joy to spend the whole day tinkering with it.
Zac went to see Project Hail Mary with friends. He rated it a 10/10 and he managed to sit focussed in one place for 2h40 minutes, hallelujah. While he was doing that, I was …redesigning the blog, and then catching up over a quick coffee with Laura. That was much needed.
4 Things worth sharing:
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I love this idea! I have hundreds of earings, but no clever way of displaying them. This is a quick hack, and I could actually have different hangers for different moods, or different colours. I am not quite sure what the grid is, but feel like it can be sourced at a good hardware shop?

Source: Pinterest
2.
Joel Snape, in his newsletter, advises me to do things before I have to. Ha ha ha! How I wish I did things before I have to! I am literally quite incapable of this. I had a meeting Monday morning at 11am that I needed to prepare for, and I should have done this on Friday. But I didn’t. I then carved out time on Sunday morning to do it, but when I showed up, I simply sat staring at my open laptop completely unmotivated to do a thing. And then (of course) I scrambled to finish on Monday morning. The unfortunate problem with all this is that the meeting went great, I was sufficiently prepared and thus I have little reason to change my ways. But I do wonder sometimes how life would feel if I got my shit done before I started stressing about it?
3.
Literally my dream. Like…literally. I want that big armchair so I can sit crosslegged and balance laptop on my lap, and sit quietly and work. If the Universe delivers this for me, I pinky-swear I will write more and read more.

Source: Pinterest
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I reminded myself today that when my favourite people in the world do things that upset me, or disappoint me, that this is just a glitch in the matrix. They are still my favourite people, who just do silly things (sometimes). Also, we are all struggling, if not at everything, then at something. And we must be grateful that our humans are…human? ie make mistkaes. (I didn’t fix that typing error, just to prove my point… worth remembering: we are not perfect either).
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